\u201cMommy, mommy, this water is cold<\/i>,\u201d whined the child in the shower at the YMCA.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s not cold,\u201d said the mommy. \u201cIt\u2019s warm<\/i>.\u201d<\/p>\n
What message was being sent — and received?<\/p>\n
Experiences are not the same as events. Just as one man\u2019s ceiling is another man\u2019s floor, the same situation can be experienced by two different people in very different ways. Could it be that the mommy and child were both<\/em> right?<\/p>\n As adults, we\u2019re told to trust our gut.\u00a0 Yet we also keep hearing: \u201cThat isn\u2019t what happened. I didn\u2019t say that. That\u2019s a terrible idea. You\u2019re wrong<\/em>.\u201d \u00a0Throwing cold water on different perspectives can have a chilling long-term effect.<\/p>\n The next time you\u2019re engaged in a disagreement, get curious instead of doctrinaire. Ask questions and seek to understand how others experience the world. You just might warm up to some new ideas.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cMommy, mommy, this water is cold,\u201d whined the child in the shower at the YMCA. \u201cIt\u2019s not cold,\u201d said the mommy. \u201cIt\u2019s warm.\u201d What message was being sent — and received? Experiences are not the same as events. Just as one man\u2019s ceiling is another man\u2019s floor, the same situation can be experienced by two […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4tZVm-7g","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/450"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=450"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/450\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":469,"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/450\/revisions\/469"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=450"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=450"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carolgoldsmith.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=450"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}